Today’s Sound Bite show builds on Ep 82 where we discussed the book Trust Yourself by Melody Wilding. There were an additional gem Yo wanted to share with you about the chapter Trust Your Gut.
Takeaways:
1. It’s tricky to differentiate between intuition and fear.
2. Fear can speak loudly and dramatically while intuition is quiet, without drama.
As mentioned in the episode:
Trust Yourself by Melody Wilding
Ep 82 Trust Yourself
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Welcome to episode 83, which the girl take the lead sound Bite.
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And a sound bite is a very short episode that builds on a
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previous episode, or it's just a moment of inspiration.
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And this episode builds on episode 82, which was based on
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the book Trust Yourself by Melody Wilding.
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She had so many great things to say, and I wanted to share what
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she had to say about Trust Your Gut, because I think sometimes
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intuition is looked upon as being some kind of woo woo
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thing. And she tells us though, that
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it's very grounded in science. She begins by saying there's a
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deep neurological basis for it, and our gut instincts can offer
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tremendous value. The problem is that sensitive
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drivers like us, which we discussed in episode 82, if you
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missed what that means, have spent years actively thwarting
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their intuition, favoring the voices of other people over
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their own. She also says that once you
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found your center and you peel back the layers of your negative
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thoughts, that's when you can hear the intuition that we all
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have. She calls intuition the
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sensitive strivers 6 cents. This is how she defines
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intuition. It's the ability to immediately
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understand something without conscious reasoning.
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In other words, answers and solutions come to us, but you
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may not always be aware why or how.
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Because it's abstract. It tends to be nonverbal and
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energetic, but here's some things that she says that can
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help us understand and give us examples of what intuition is.
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A gut feeling. You know, like if you get that
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pit in your stomach feeling, especially when you're looking
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at decisions, that's your gut talking loud and clear.
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And then there's other physical signs, like dreams or even
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getting sick. Researchers at Heart Math
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Institute refer to it as energetic sensitivity, noting
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that when it happens, a person's heart rhythms tend to
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synchronize with the rest of the nervous system, leading to
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deeper awareness, energy, and composure.
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Flashes of insight, like when we feel like something is pretty
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accidental. But actually what's happened is
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that the brain has had time to work.
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The subconscious and those creative ideas just sort of
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float up. And then there's
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synchronicities. And those are like when things
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happen, when we scan our environment and we filter out
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the things that don't seem to make any sense, and you can see
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things differently because the brain is looking for them.
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It's like when you're going to buy a red car and all you see
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are red cars on the road, and then there's a sense of
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assuredness. And that's like the confidence
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that we get when we pair our intuition with analytical
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thinking, and that really informs leadership.
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So there's a point in the book where she brings up this whole
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notion of fear and intuition, and I wanted to understand more
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of that because I can often feel fear.
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I think when I think it's intuition.
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Fear sounds loud and demanding, and intuition, I know has a
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softer voice and a more mellow tone.
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With fear we can have a feeling of urgency and it can be driven
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by insecurity, while intuition is a calm inner knowing and
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driven by confidence and selftrust.
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Fear may feel tense or constricting in our bodies,
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while intuition can feel expanding and relaxing and
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thrives in stillness. Intuitive thoughts reflected
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deeper wisdom and pursue our needs and preferences.
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I would also add that intuitive messages don't have the word
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should in the vocabulary. I would say shoulds are about
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avoiding some fear that something bad will happen.
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Have there been times in your life where you've just felt
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guided along? There might have been lots of
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chatter in your head about a big decision like there wasn't mine
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about getting married. I was about 35, and I have been
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manifesting a smart guy on a motorcycle with long hair and
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then he showed up. Was he the one?
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I don't know. Maybe he wasn't, but everything
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in my being said yes. Do it.
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Take the risk. It wasn't a loud, desperate
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voice, but a soft, gentle 1. Going with our gut can be
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courageous. It's trusting ourselves into a
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future with that's basically unknown.
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I love it in the book when she says learning to make decisions
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based on undeniable sense of integrity isn't an overnight
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process. But with time, your intuition
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will get more accurate. And the more you practice, the
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more we'll keep our strive qualities in balance.
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And if you need to know more about Strive, check out episode
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82. We talked about what that meant.
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Here are some thoughts she gives us about getting unstuck when
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making decisions. Test Drive your decision like
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maybe we'll play it. Cultivate an open mind using the
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sensitive striver strength of being observant.
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Build in buffer time to decompress and reflect on what's
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going on with you. That's my best time to write.
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Limit the drain of decision fatigue she mentions during the
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day all the decisions we need to make from the minute we get
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up-to-the-minute we go to sleep and by letting go of some of
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those decisions that we really don't need and are unnecessary.
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And lastly, we can recall times when we trusted our gut and it
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worked out like deciding to marry Steve.
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Canny. While there are so many
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incredible chapters in this book, I picked this one in
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intuition because I felt it has so much to do with effective
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leadership. And here are some points to
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connect the dots for you. Effective leaders integrate
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intuition and rationality in decision making, problem
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solving, to think outside the box and consider unconventional
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approaches to challenges. Emotional intelligence, which
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we've covered a lot in our episodes, which leads to better
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understanding and empathizing with others and their emotions
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and needs. When leaders trust their own
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intuition and act authentically, members of the group feel
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listened to and heard. And on that note will end
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today's episode. And may we all be filled with
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courage to listen to our intuition and quiet enough to
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hear it. Thanks for being here and join
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Talk to you soon. Bye.
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