What happens when someone you love crosses a threshold—and suddenly you realize you’re standing at one, too?
My husband is making a career pivot, looking for more balance and choice in how he spends his time.
Five years ago, I stood at a similar threshold after leaving a 42-year corporate career. I knew what I was leaving, but not what I would find on the other side. Eventually, podcasting, art, new rhythms, and a new sense of identity became part of the life I built.
Now it’s his turn to discover what comes next.
But his transition has raised another question for me:
What will his change mean for us?
Because change doesn’t always happen directly to us. Sometimes it enters through someone we love. A partner changes careers. A child begins a new chapter. A parent needs more from us. A friend moves away.
Their life changes—and the landscape of ours changes, too.
This Threshold also led me to something I’ve noticed in myself and other women: caring can sometimes feel like an all-or-nothing proposition.
If we care for someone else, we’re loving and generous.
If we protect what we need, are we being selfish?
What if that’s a false choice?
What if love can make room for both?
In This Episode
We explore:
- Why someone else’s transition can become our threshold, too
- The uncertainty between one identity and whatever comes next
- Resisting the urge to solve someone else’s transition
- Caring for someone we love without losing ourselves
- Why self-care and generosity don’t have to be opposites
- How relationships evolve because the people within them keep evolving
- Why a strong “we” can hold two evolving “I’s”
Questions
Maybe the question isn’t simply:
Who am I now?
Or:
Who are you now?
Maybe sometimes life asks:
Who are we now?
And perhaps we discover the answer by living our way into what comes next.
- Has someone else’s change ever created a transition in your life?
- Is it difficult to make room for your needs while caring for someone you love?
- Where might you be treating care as an either/or choice?
- What could become possible if there were room for you, me, and us?
Reflection
At the Threshold is a reflection series about the life transitions that quietly reshape us—and the unexpected gifts we discover as we walk through them.
About At the Threshold
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Coming Next
Next on Girl, Take the Lead!, I’m joined by Bree Katulak—executive, entrepreneur, TEDx speaker, and host of the Unstoppable You Podcast.
We explore Bree’s “invisible scorecard,” the definitions of success we inherit, and what happens when reaching the milestone doesn’t feel the way we expected.
We’ll talk about achievement and worthiness, the masks we wear, our core values, and moving from winning to wholeness, status to self-trust, and productivity to presence.
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Until next time...
Listen inward.
Lead outward.
And remember...
Sometimes when someone we love crosses a threshold, we discover we’re standing at one, too.